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I have genital herpes and I am seeking support and advice from others. Can anyone help me?
I found out that I have genital herpes a few months ago. I’m very emotional about it and I don’t how to deal with it. I’m concerned with how this will affect my life. I’m single but I desire to be married and have a family someday and I feel like people would run once they knew that I have GH. I don’t want to give herpes to anyone, yet I want to get married someday and have a healthy sex life. I need direction, help, and comfort right now. I know I can’t change the facts but I need to come to terms with this and not cry when I talk about it. What support is available? What do support groups have to offer? What can you suggest that I do to answer questions I have? What type of sex life can I expect now that I have herpes? I don’t want to spread this disease. Can I get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy without spreading herpes? Any direction and/or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you to all who read and reach out to me, I really appreciate it.
There is no question that this is a diagnosis that no one is happy about receiving. It sucks, but it does get better. The first think you need to remember is to not let herpes define who you are. It is just a virus and in the grand scheme of things, it is far less of an issue in a relationship that a lot of other baggage that exists out there.
When I found out I had herpes I was in shock. I never slept around and have had far fewer partners that anyone else I know. How could that happen to me? It was like I had a big sign over my head that told everyone that *I* was the one. But since then I have found out that there are so many of us out there! Between 25- 40% of the population has genital herpes! We are everywhere! No one can tell who we are, and those who love us see it for what it is. Just a minor inconvenience from time to time, but nothing more.
Yes, of course you can get married, have a healthy sex life, and have children. My husband is h- and it makes no difference to him if I have it. Over 25% of all babies born in the US are born to mothers with genital herpes. So that is not an issue.
There are ways to avoid spreading the virus, but it is also possible that you will find someone who already has it. You did not say what type you have, but as many as 90% of the population has type 1 herpes. If that is what you have, then chances are you do not need to worry about spreading it anyway. Those who reject you for having herpes are probably not worth being in your life anyway. Decent people will see you for who you are, and not focus on the virus that is no more than a cold sore.
A really good on line support group is located at http://www.racoon.com/herpes/index.html
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