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I have genital herpes and I am seeking support and advice from others. Can anyone help me?

I found out that I have genital herpes a few months ago. I’m very emotional about it and I don’t how to deal with it. I’m concerned with how this will affect my life. I’m single but I desire to be married and have a family someday and I feel like people would run once they knew that I have GH. I don’t want to give herpes to anyone, yet I want to get married someday and have a healthy sex life. I need direction, help, and comfort right now. I know I can’t change the facts but I need to come to terms with this and not cry when I talk about it. What support is available? What do support groups have to offer? What can you suggest that I do to answer questions I have? What type of sex life can I expect now that I have herpes? I don’t want to spread this disease. Can I get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy without spreading herpes? Any direction and/or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you to all who read and reach out to me, I really appreciate it.

There is no question that this is a diagnosis that no one is happy about receiving. It sucks, but it does get better. The first think you need to remember is to not let herpes define who you are. It is just a virus and in the grand scheme of things, it is far less of an issue in a relationship that a lot of other baggage that exists out there.

When I found out I had herpes I was in shock. I never slept around and have had far fewer partners that anyone else I know. How could that happen to me? It was like I had a big sign over my head that told everyone that *I* was the one. But since then I have found out that there are so many of us out there! Between 25- 40% of the population has genital herpes! We are everywhere! No one can tell who we are, and those who love us see it for what it is. Just a minor inconvenience from time to time, but nothing more.

Yes, of course you can get married, have a healthy sex life, and have children. My husband is h- and it makes no difference to him if I have it. Over 25% of all babies born in the US are born to mothers with genital herpes. So that is not an issue.

There are ways to avoid spreading the virus, but it is also possible that you will find someone who already has it. You did not say what type you have, but as many as 90% of the population has type 1 herpes. If that is what you have, then chances are you do not need to worry about spreading it anyway. Those who reject you for having herpes are probably not worth being in your life anyway. Decent people will see you for who you are, and not focus on the virus that is no more than a cold sore.

A really good on line support group is located at http://www.racoon.com/herpes/index.html

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Are we friends w / benefits or dating without the label?

My friend and I know since 3 months. The first time we met, we went to a group of friends get together. We have been flirting, talking, drinking. We've had difficult times. He kissed her in front of his friends, when we were there. A friend I asked if we were going out. Since then, we've been around, because every weekend whether to go to the cinema, restaurant, leave your home to watch television, movies, sports. I have been prepared dinner with a good amount of time when we decided to stay inside When I left we sleep together. Worth it when we left. Sometimes I can afford. He hugs holding my hand, gives me kisses on the forehead. And when I have not seen a report of the week and go see the first thing it is for me a hug and a kiss. We spoke by telephone / message each other. Are we friends with benefits because we are sleeping with or dating each other without labels?

It seems that data without labels, but it is important to know with certainty because you need to know-1. Does seeing other people? Is it permissible for you to see other people? You do not want to get involved emotionally and know that someone else saw too, then say, "Well, it's not as if we were officially dating." AHD a man I do that. He did all the things I said (to pay, taking into Me, etc) as well. Pica. Find a fact.

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How do you start dating again when you have herpes?? (Only serious answers!!!! NO Judgement!!!)?

I would like to get back out there but I cant keep but feeling like a leper.

I totally understand you, I got herpes on my wedding night when I was 18 and a virgin so imagine how I felt…. well I stayed in a loveless marriage because I felt like a leper and I had two babies finally I could not take it anymore and I divorced him and I always carried that leper feeling thing inside finally after 12 years I found the love of my life such an amazing man and he did not care about the herpes we have been married now for almost 4 years and we have a baby together. Have faith in God and pray that he put in your path the man of your dreams that will love you no matter what. God Bless…

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Herpes and dating question.

Alright here is the deal. I was dating this girl for about 5 weeks who has genital herpes. Things ended since she still had feeling for her ex-boyfriend. I contacted her a few weeks to see how she was and turns out things didn’t work out with the old boyfriend. So we started dating again but not yet back in a relationship. At this point if I said lets be a couple then we would be together. I’m extremely fearful of getting herpes because if things don’t work out I”ll be damaging my future sex life.
We have never engaged in intercourse or oral sex and we discussed there would be no intercourse/oral sex until marriage. I’m 26 and find that the two of us are extremely similar and have a strong physical attraction to each other. I feel she is more into ma than I am into her which bother me a bit. I don’t want to hurt her. So what do you all think end things or see how it goes after a few months to see if my feelings strengthen even more.

Since both of you are committed to not having sex until marriage you can take your time to get to know if she is the one for you. If you do decide to take your relationship to that level, you can learn ways to reduce your risk of catching herpes. Just treat it like any other relationship for now, since there isn’t any sex you don’t have to worry. Besides, it sounds like you have mixed feelings and that she might not be the one, at least because of this you will really take your time and you will find out if you really love her or not.

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I really need some ADULT advice about dating younger men, from older women if possible..??

I know I already asked this question but I think mostly unexperienced teens answered
I need some dating tips, what should I expect from a younger guy early 20’s, what should I not do, what is the downside to this type of relationship ?
Do I have to wait for them to mature, or can I mold him..?? If you’ve dated or married a younger guy, please advise

I married a guy younger than me. He will want to play more. Most guys in their early 20’s are still into things like video games and it isn’t something you can just break them of over night. Don’t talk about marriage and kids because it will send him running for the hills. Play it cool. And what ever you do, don’t start acting too bossy or nagging him. If you are much older than him, all he will see is that you are trying to be his mother. Dating a younger guy and even marrying a younger guy can be wonderful. They aren’t whipped by the responsibilities of the world so they are more care-free and they can add more spice to your life. Just remember that while an older woman dating a younger man can put you into a different category with your friends, it can do the same for him. Be prepared. If there are quite a few years between the two of you, don’t be surprised if his own peer group have some snarky comments about you dating. From somewhat nice (hey, it’s Stiffler’s Mom) to calling you a cougar. If you don’t know these references, Stiffler was a character in the movie American Pie and one of his friends got the priviledge of sleeping with his mom. A cougar is a slang term to describe a 35+ year old female who is on the “hunt” for a much younger, energetic, willing-to-do-anything male. If this does happen, just chalk it up to the fact that they are threatened by you and have fun. Be mindful that many men, regardless of age, are out to have fun but not necessarily in for a relationship. Make sure you establish what you are after first. If all you want is a man that can go all night, you will find some one out there eager to prove they can. If you want the relationship thing, it can get a little tougher. Most men in this age group are not looking for the domestic bliss relationship. Sowing their wild oats and making memories is for them. If you are lucky you will find a 22-23 year old and have a few good years of fun and then he will mature into the guy who is ready to marry. That’s how it happened for me. Now we have wedded bliss but my guy is still in his 20’s and I am in my 30s so the fun still continues. Good luck and remember that the best way to approach any relationship is to think about the person first, age second. Have fun.

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Single fathers, when were you ready to seriously date again after a divorce?

Do you really feel the need to jump right into it, or do you just feel like saying screw it for a while, and enjoy being single again? Also, maybe take some time to heal and be with your kid.

ive been divorecd for 11 years my kid was 6 when moma left . so myself, it took almost 5 years for me to get over it and heal up, your working as much as you can which dosnt leave your social life open, unless you have friends that can hook u up. ive had about 3 dates and thats all i wanted, most women dont like single dads, and most kids dont like another woman seeing dad, im just now where i can really enjoy being alive again, but thats me, but if and when a lady wants to go out with me, she dosnt have to worry about me yapping bout the ex or crying over her, i can devote all my energy to her,, as long as my daughter says its ok,,,

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What is the approppriate amount of time to wait before introducing kids to new partner after divorce?

I am in a committed, exclusive relationship with another man. My ex-husband and i have been divorce for only a year, but were separated for three years prior to actual divorce. while separated & before i began new relatiosnhip we still did things together often as a family. I would never introduce my kids to anyone I was not very serious about, i don’t believe in parading dates in front of kids or allowing them to ebcome attatched to someone else they may lose. The difference in this relationship is that they already know this man as we were very close friends for many years, they just do not know that mommy has a boyfriend or someone sh eis considering marrying. I know that they will be hurt at first, but I want to do what is best, so as to not cause them any unnecessary long term damage

The sooner the better. Kids are not dumb, they probably
suspect something is going on anyway. Even if they are young.
Introduce your friend, they know him already, that gives them
time to think and adjust to the news. Later you can tell them
how serious you are about your relationship with this man.

Be honest with your kids, respect their emotional reaction, good or bad, and take it easy when you talk about your life with your friend. Let them be part of it now, not when you made the decision to marry him and confront them with the facts.

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I recently started dating and I have Genital Herpes should I tell him?

I had dated this same guy many years ago and we stopped dating and we recently started dating him again he is a doctor and he is putting alot of pressure on me to have sex with him again which i have avoided by saying i want to take things slower this time. but now i was diagnosed with Genital Herpes and Im scared to tell him. can he pass it on to his patients without sexual contact.

Can he pass it onto his patients???

So you don’t mind infecting HIM because you are too immature, selfish and self-obsessed to tell him, but you are worried about his patients?

You really make me sick

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